Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Wordless Wednesday (not really)...

This is what it looks like when my husband takes photos... It was taken yesterday. I asked him to take it because I wanted him to capture a moment. I was wearing a pair of suede shorts that my mother wore in college. She handed these shorts down to me and I also wore them in college. And because I am a pack rat, frugal fashionista who believes in wearing vintage clothing, I still have the shorts and I wore them yesterday. I was also wearing them because I am a busy working mom whose husband put the majority of my fall/winter clothes into storage in April after we closed on a house that we haven't moved into yet...

While some of you may question why I was wearing a Friday outfit on a Tuesday and others may be questioning why an attorney would be wearing suede shorts to the office at all, I encourage you to focus on the real issue.  I was wearing shorts that I wore in college and I had a baby seven months ago. I was kind of pumped about it and I hope you are too! :-)

(My daughter is in the very blurry photo because she bombed me. Who knows perhaps she'll wear the shorts one day too!)

Friday, October 24, 2014

Reading on the Run: Articles of Interest to Working Moms (Egg Freezing Benefit Packages Part II)

The egg freezing benefit discussion that I mentioned in my previous blog post is an issue that's relevant to all working women, but especially working moms. To date, there has not been overwhelming support for us. Even though many of us have been trying to lean in we have struggled because of the lack of basic benefits like paid maternity leave, paid vacation benefits, and flexible schedules.

Egg Freezing Benefits May Make Being a Working Mom Unfashionable

We have been fighting tirelessly to get Corporate America to recognize that while we may enjoy our work, while we are willing to work long and work hard, working is not our life. It doesn't seem like we should have to apologize for that, but we often do because we understand the unspoken truth. Our getting pregnant, our children and our resulting family obligations are inconvenient for our employers.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Reading on the Run: Articles of Interest to Working Moms (Egg Freezing Benefit Packages, Part I)

Successful working women keep track of important matters in the news. However, we are not one-dimensional. Some of us also want to keep up with celebrity gossip and fashion news too. Even in the era of the Internet and 24 hour news shows and E!, it can be challenging to keep up with everything.

Fortunately for you, I make it my job to keep up on articles of interest and resources to working moms and when I find notable ones, I share them with you. Below are two that sparked my interest. They focus on the topic of egg freezing benefit packages being providing to employees by some technology companies.

Nearly every working woman wonders about the best time to have a child

The price you pay for being a woman is that at some point you have to address the question about when/whether to have a family.  My blog focuses on issues relevant to working mothers. So, you know what path I chose. I took the path most traveled by many women before me. I decided to procreate and that has made all the difference. (Get the Robert Frost reference?!)

For women, when you decided to try to become a mother matters because of a condition known as age related infertility.  Basically this means that at some point, a woman becomes too old to bear children. "Too old" varies by the person. However, if you were unaware, after 35 many physicians start billing you as a "geriatric pregnancy". So, that gives you a hint at what they're the insurance companies are thinking.

Many professional women have long lamented that the time for building a good résumé and a family occurs at the same time. That conflict is what has lead to the whole "having it all" discussion. Well Facebook and Apple have decided to help their female workers fight the fertility/résumé building conflict with more ammunition.  They are paying for them to freeze their eggs.

Although it seems like a really generous gesture on the face of it, I have some concerns about what it means more broadly.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Working Mom Tip: Looking Nice When You Have Small Children

Seen on Facebook: It is really hard to look really nice when you have a tiny human whose care takes precedence over how you look. Anyone else with me on this?? 

My Response:

Every working mom knows that a baby can wreck your pursuit of elegance if you let it.  The secret is, you can’t let it.  Because while other moms will understand that your kid has you looking like a hot mess in public they will talk about you. And chances are, you were talking about those crazy looking moms before you became one of them before you became a mom.

I can relate to the challenge. Both of my kids have been spitters. It’s like they are allergic to clean shirts. When they encounter a clean shirt their mission is to soil it.  I think it makes them feel better or something.  The secret to looking good is to eschew natural fabrics and rock polyester.

I know this advice seems odd coming from me. I have shared my stories of natural childbirth, making my own baby food and making green drinks from scratch. I believe in natural foods, but appreciate the simplicity polyester. For you purists, I dare you to judge me. For you moms with small kids, trust me. Man-made clothing is the secret to looking good with small children. Cotton stains easily. Silk is ruined by spit up. And it's hard to get foul odors from wool.

You want to look good and smell good? Avoid natural fibers at all costs, especially leather.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

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